Here’s a few questions to ponder: When there’s a problem with your horse, how do you know if it’s really his problem or yours? When two entities are involved in a relationship, is it even possible for only one to be the source of problems that both experience? And just because the horse isn’t human, why does it have to be him that has to be “at fault” and therefore “fixed”?
According to the Law of Attraction approach to horsemanship, whenever there is a problem with a horse - whether it’s fear or spooking caused by an object real or imagined, or aggression or stubbornness, or even such things as your horse’s health or ability, whether it’s a new horsemanship problem or an old one – the first thing is to acknowledge is that that problems with horses start with humans.
The Law of Attraction says that everything that happens in your life is what you’ve attracted to yourself, either purposefully or unconsciously, through the choices you have made. The choices you have made create the person you are and the situation you find yourself in, no matter whoever or whatever else is involved, no matter whether you’ve been aware you even had choices or were making them.
Everything you do is the result of choices – everything. Until and unless you accept this tenet of the Law of Attraction, you can never be in control of your life, because you will be a “victim” of circumstance – things happening to you instead of because of you. This includes your being the “victim” of your horse’s own choices.
I can’t believe how strongly I fought the concept of personal responsibility in the past! I started out by arguing that random events couldn’t have any connection with my choices – the old “what if a meteor struck me on the head, how could I be responsible for that?” argument, which translates to “why am I responsible for unconsciously made choices?”. Then I argued that sometimes I’ve been forced to do things by people more powerful than I, as if somehow some other entity was inhabiting my body, making me some sort of puppet, which translates to “why should I be responsible for choices I made that maybe weren’t the best for me?”. And then I argued that I couldn’t have choice if my soul/the Universe had a Higher Purpose for my life, which was really the same argument as the previous one. And of course, there’s the “but I didn’t know better!” position to fall back on, as if I somehow shouldn’t be held responsible for choices if I didn’t already know all the possible outcomes.
The opposite side of the coin of non-responsibility is that once you accept that you are fully the chooser, the only one who directs your life and the only one who can be held responsible for everything in it, you become the conscious creator of your reality. So, if you choose to accept responsibility for your own choices and thereby to create your own reality, it follows that if you are experiencing horse/human problems, the only sure way to fix them is to fix yourself.
The Law of Attraction says that likes attract likes, that you will attract to you from the Universe that which matches who you truly are. Who you are is not just “parent, teacher, sibling, friend, enemy, boss, owner, horseman” or any of these or many more possible descriptors, because these labels are so limited – they can only identify isolated facets of you and not the most fundamental core of who you truly are. Who you are isn’t any one aspect of yourself. Who you are is not simply who you think you are, or who you want to be. Rather, who you are is the totality of your unconscious as well as conscious mind, your thoughts and beliefs, your actions, your Higher Self (soul) and your physical expression of your Higher Purpose at any given moment in your existence, all of which are the result of the accumulation of choices you have made (on this plane of existence as well as spiritually).
This is important for three reasons: One, you have be what you want to attract in all facets of your life - not just in one finite area - because you aren’t just one thing, you are all those things at every moment; and two, the choices you make affect all facets of your life, not just one aspect of yourself; and three, becoming on the “inside” what you want to attract even in one area affects everything else that is attracted to you from the Universe, including better behavior from your horse.
How does it work?
First, you’ve got to commit to change. This is so fundamental, yet so often ignored. You can’t get to a new place without leaving the old place.
Second, you’ve got to actually change. As Yoda in Star Wars said, “do, or do not – there is no try”. It is hard to actually leave the safety of the known behind to go boldly into the unknown – even when the unknown might be much, much better. This involves making choices every moment that support the new person you are becoming, and leaving behind the choices you’ve made in the past that anchor you to who you have been.
Once you’ve changed, have become a different person, then the new person you truly are will attract new things from the Universe.
The trick, of course, is that you are wanting to become a person that you’ve never been before – not an easy thing. And, unless you successfully do change (not just try, but actually change), you’ll just keep attracting the same old things you’ve been attracting all along. If the issue is horsemanship, then nothing will change in your horse, either.
Question is, if likes attract likes, just how do you become a person that attracts a better behaved horse – when you aren’t a horse (well behaved or otherwise), yourself?
Upcoming articles:
Yoda’s words – try vs. doing
Techniques for separating the symptoms from the causes of problems
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